We wish that you and your partner manage to part with dignity.
It was still very early in the morning when he left the hut to watch the sunrise on top of the mountain. There was no one else out and about, so he had the world to himself. In any case, that is his perspective, but it is limited because he cannot see beyond the mountain.
Someone also set off there, much earlier. The two paths are not the same. What neither hiker can imagine is that they will meet on the ridge above. Suddenly, completely surprising. Rubbing your eyes in amazement that there really and truly is a person who shares the same ideals and with whom you would like to continue your journey in life.
And so they go, enjoying each other, discussing, arguing, making up on the long journey together. One person stands in one place, looks down into the valley and looks forward to the inn down there. A good meal, wine, later a warm bed - they really deserve that. It's completely clear to him that his companion is just as excited about it. But he looks over to the peak ahead. “We've made it so far and are doing so well together that we're not going to go downhill now. We can still get to the summit over there together.”
It soon becomes clear to both of them that neither will be able to convince the other. While one has to climb the next peak and probably the one after that because that is his path, the other will descend into the valley on the path determined for him and continue his journey there. And they say goodbye: "I'll save a seat for you downstairs in case you change your mind." "No, let it be; it was nice to meet you. Now go your way without me, just as I have to go my way without you. What I could give you, I did with joy. I will cherish what you have given me.”
We want you to say goodbye to each other in the same way even if you get divorced. They were never ONE, but always TWO. It is your two life paths that met years ago. Each of you has made it this far without the other. Despite all their similarities, their different biographies have not stopped developing independently, even if they sometimes run in parallel. Nothing falls apart when you honor what the other person was able to give you.
So that you can be free for a new beginning, write a letter to your partner.
Maybe like this:
I take and keep what you gave me.
I thank you for it and hold it in honor.
And you can take what I gave you.
I was happy to do it.
What went wrong between us
I take my part as a responsibility
and I let you take responsibility for your part.
As the father / mother of our children, I appreciate and respect you,
and I want, as far as it's up to me, to continue with you
work together for their good.
As a partner, I say goodbye to you
And wish you all the best.
Farewell, go your way now without me
as I will now go my way without you!
We, the artax advisory team, cannot relieve you of the human worries and problems in this context. However, our aim is to support you on this difficult journey with the full range of our professional skills. As far as we can, we want to help you separate from your spouse in such a way that you both do not have to suffer from the consequences of unregulated relationships for years after the divorce.
As hard as it may be, maintain size and part with grace, you owe it to yourself. You can do a lot for your own future by trying very early on, perhaps together with your current spouse, to clarify as many questions as possible that will arise for both of you. To help you with this, we have put together the attached catalog of topics. Please go through the individual positions carefully and regulate, alone or together, everything that you can already manage today.
Please tick the topics on which you would like our advice. Please return the catalog with the topics you ticked off to us within the next two weeks so that we can prepare appropriately for the next consultation. If your spouse also needs a copy of the topic catalog, please call us.
You and your spouse can save a lot of money if you secure all the tax benefits to which you are entitled during the separation phase and after the divorce. We would also be happy to advise you on this topic. Unfortunately, tax law is so complicated, especially in an international context, that a layperson can hardly understand it. We have expertise on the subject of taxes in the event of separation and divorce, including cross-border matters.
In the end, what we can offer them is an empty white room. One in which the material problems have been resolved and all economic and legal questions have been clarified. And in which it's just the two of them. So that you can say goodbye to each other emotionally and only then are you truly free to start anew.
Divorce: This is where the clean-up work begins, with which we would be happy to help you:
